being a stay-at-home mom can be the most rewarding experience ever. I know a lot of moms who would give a right arm to have the opportunity. Being a stay at home mom has taught me a lot of things, but the number one thing I cling to is that I am not alone in my feelings.
make a plan
I think I repeat myself in blog posts with this one. Making a plan, sticking to a routine, there’s a method to the madness, I promise. For the first eight months of being a SAHM, there was no routine, no schedule, everything was random. It was the most stressful time. I decided to buy a black board and write down a schedule for every day. Every day had a to-do list, what the kids were doing, what I was doing, and what the menu was. It seems tedious, but it makes everything a little smoother.
surround yourself with positive people
This rings so true to me. I have been in some toxic relationships in the past and know first hand how negativity can seep into ones mind. Surrounding yourself with positivity is a great way to reduce stress, get some great advice, and live a content life. Now don’t get me wrong, there is a difference between positivity and sugar-coating the facts.
I’d prefer to face the music than to tap dance around the truth, but that’s just me.
I guess I never really understood this before having kids. The one great thing about the military is that there are some wonderful resources out there, you just have to be willing to find them. There was a moms-connect group on base that met every other week. Childcare was provided and it was a chance for women to have adult conversations, eat some good food, and do fellowship together without having a toddler yank at your ankle every five seconds.
Our village also has play dates at the local library, walks around town together, and so much more. Take a look at your towns council notice or Facebook page, I’m sure there’s great info there.
embrace the chaos
This is a really funny one to me because before kids I would’ve never guessed there would be chaos with kids. We have some really nice furniture in our house and our niece and nephew would visit often and play when they were smaller. My brother in law always warned us to not have nice things because the kids will ruin it. Well fast forward to 3 year old twins and let me just leave this here with – we have a plastic tarp over our coffee table 😂.
Moral of this story- toddlers will be toddlers, it’s what they do. Enjoy these moments because they will fly by folks. I’ve learned that my house will never be in perfect order, toys will be left out, and chocolate will be all over the car seat. At the end of the day I won’t remember those moments, but the memories I made loving my children.
take time for you
Something I talk about often- make that time for YOU. This past year I was not working so getting massages, facials, etc. Was not in the picture. I instead took time to go on walks, read a book, learn how to do my own nails, and many others. Do something that helps you relax and reset.
I really hope you enjoyed these tips. I found so much inspiration from listening to what other moms are going through and how they overcame it.
Here is a list of my favorite tips on being a SAHM:
Babble- My stay-at-home mom survival guide by: Jen Simon
HuffPost- 5 Ways To Survive Being A Stay-At-Home Mom by: Raquel Harbin
POPSUGAR- 13 Habits of Highly Effective (and Sane) Stay-at-Home Moms by: Denise Stirk
Today’s Parent- 7 survival tips for stay-at-home moms by: Jennifer Pinarski